what happened yesterday was something really funny yet sweet..
as usual, whenever PP comes home from work with Dina...i'll open the door and there's dina in nor's arms... dina will flash me the cutest smile and with her outstretched arms to me, she'll say "COME" signalling me to pick her up...
but ysterday, dina for the first time, ever, refused to let me hold her while still in nor's arms... (hmm..mama felt a tad sad instantly..) but still i took her and cuddled her as always.... then askd her to "give mama a kiss"... AGAIN, dina refused me...but still in my arms, she smiled and said "mammaa" and a bunch of words ... a minute later dina wrggled herself free and i put her down...
and let her do her own thing...
i kept saying to her, "come, dina kiss mama here" pointing to my cheeks... and AGAIN, she said 'no'.... to my dismay.... i persisted...and she refused me again, preferring to play with her toys instead... ok i really felt a bit hurt by her behaviour thinking that Dina has forgotten her own mama la etc. etc... THEN, Dina came to me and asked for my boobs... she wants her 'friend'... and OF COS, i didnt immediately give in to her demand.... dina looked at me and said 'come, come' and i merely looked at her and said 'kiss mama first and say sorry mama'.... dina refused to do as told and started to wail... with tears now dripping from her cheeks, she looked at me with teh saddest face ever... as i've btrayed her.... with my arms crossed, i looked at her , and shook my head, and repeatedly telling her to say 'sorry mama'... dina wailed louder and looked at PP. PP helped out and said to dina ' papa tak tau... dina kena say sorry to mama... papa tak tau'....and looked the other way.... (thanks papa, this is how reinforcement is needed to teach dina values)...
dina walked to nor , who came from the kitchen to see what was happening, for some consolation.. to which PP quickly said, "Biarkan".... dina seeing no one was helping her out...went into her changing room and stood at one corner , crying away... after a few seconds, she came out again and walked to her toys and banged on them at the same time glancing at me with her kesian look yet tear-stricken face... she came back to me and stood between my knees( as i was sittign on the sofa ) and reached her hardest towards my boobs, while saying 'mam-maa...mam-maa...'. i picked her up and asked her to "look at me".. she did, and i told her again 'say sorry first'.. this scene repeated for 4 times - dina literally begging me to surrender my boobs - until i finally took her back in my arms to breastfeed..
as Dina was drinking from me, she looked at me with the saddest eyes...as if saying 'kenapa mama buat dina macam nie'... i repeatedly said to her 'next time kiss mama dulu', and say sorry mama'... dina understood by nodding her head but...not saying sorry, of cos.
AT 5am the next morning .....
Dina woke up beside me on the bed ...and glanced at me.. i stirred ...and for about half an hr, she kept saying 'sa-yyaaaag mam-maa' and kissed me on my lips and face about 5-6 times... :)) until i gave her some mama-milk to which she went back to lala land...
CONCLUSION:
Dina said sorry after all... in her own adorable way. 'sorry' is a word that she will pick up soon and understand its meaning...
Toddlers learn by repetition.